Welcome to Mom Bliss, my regular feature on Dainty Mom that sheds the spotlight on ladies who are living their best lives, according to their definition of “bliss”. Today, my guest is one of those bloggers I immediately fell in love with, because of her creativity, her passion for life, and her love for God. Meet the super-talented Rhiza Sanchez-Oyos, of Chasing Dreams blog, and of Sweet Dreams Candy Buffets.
So, what have you been up to lately?
My husband and I just celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary, and our twin girls are celebrating their first birthday! As you see, I’m still a rookie mom and wife, but I feel like I’ve grown and learned the most in the past two years.
Please tell us a little bit about yourself and your life as a mother.
My husband and I had the greatest surprise of our life when we found out, six months into our marriage, that I was pregnant with twin girls. I was not aware that my Dad had twin-bearing genes prior to that, I guess that’s why having twins never really crossed my mind. What an awesome surprise.
This being our first pregnancy, the process felt like a crash course of sorts. We had to learn everything double time (pun intended). We had to buy two of almost everything. And then the twins were born and we have to do everything twice—feeding, bathing, changing diapers, burping. Our house is twice as messy. And life has been crazy-times-two.
But now, ten months later, here I am, unbelievably happy and doubly grateful to God for giving me this unique opportunity of being a mother to these two girls. Words are not enough.
Please tell us the story behind your journey as a mom and mompreneur. What were some of the most important learning moments of your journey?
It goes without saying that having twins also means our spending is also doubled, and our budget has to be stretched to cover for 2 babies who consume too much milk and diapers, plus a helper. I had to continue working, accept extra-income sidelines, all of these while learning and growing as a mother.
My husband and I have always prayed about starting our own business to support our growing needs as a family. We had lots of ideas but none of those ideas actually materialized.
DIY-ing our baby shower and twins’ dedication, I realized how much I enjoyed it, at the same time how stressful it was having to do everything! I reckon a lot of mothers and women like me will benefit from a service that would make them feel like they’re the ones who DIY-ed their own parties. And if they could leave the candy/dessert buffet to someone they trust, then they can focus on the other details of their celebrations.
To see if we can really work it out, we offered to set up a candy buffet for a friend’s party as a trial run, and the guests loved it. We started Sweet Dreams Dessert Buffets shortly after, and we’ve been doing it for the past 3 months. It’s a lot of work, but it’s the kind of work that makes me kilig if you know what I’m saying, so it doesn’t really feel like work.
At this early stage I’ve learned that the real profit in doing any business is finding joy in what we do, and the opportunity to be part of other people’s lives. If you’re a Mompreneur and you’re sacrificing precious time away from your children to do some business, you might as well make the sacrifice count by adding a personal touch to whatever work you do, and by leaving a lasting impression to your clients.
In the future I pray that our business will be financially profitable enough that I can let go of my other sideline jobs.
We love to know how moms like you manage their busy days! Tell us: What is a typical day is like for you as a mom?
I feel like I can’t completely own the WAHM title just yet because I have to report to our Makati office 3 days a week. A typical day for me would start whenever the babies would wake up, normally around 8am. I try my best to wake up a little earlier to have my devotion, pray, and reflect. Then I spend time with them until I have to go to the office around 9 or 10am. I come home at around 7 or 8pm.
The other two days of the week I work on our dining table, which I realize, is more challenging than being in the office! Just the same, I’m grateful for the opportunity to be as close to the babies as possible.
At 7pm we go about our night time routine—dinner, bath time, play time. It’s a little more challenging to get them to sleep earlier these days. On good days, we get them to sleep at 9pm, but sometimes they’re up until 11pm.
Once the babies are asleep, I spend an hour or two working on sideline projects—writing, designing invitations, making websites, also replying to emails that I missed out during the day. Currently I have a writing project, so that’s what I work on in the evenings these days.
But the night is not over yet. Because once I turn off the laptop, my husband and I spend some time together watching our favorite TV series. We’re currently hooked to Suits and Newsroom. We’re nocturnals like that, but that’s not everyday naman. Mga twice a week lang. We usually call it a day at 1am.
On Friday nights we work on our candy buffet business, if we have clients over the weekend. Working on a candy buffet set-up is usually a bonding session between me and my husband too, and we both enjoy doing that together.
Thank you, Martine, for making me realize how crazy my schedule is. I’m obviously not hacking the WAHM life just yet, but I’ve set a schedule that works for me and doesn’t keep me insane, and I’m currently happy with this setup.
In a few words (or even a sentence), define what you believe is “mom bliss.”
Mom Bliss for me is those precious moments you spend with your family, whether it’s a weekend vacation, or a short moment in between work, or as simple as watching Veggie Tales with your kids or going through your night time routine. Short moments of bliss when you forget about work, and your bills, and the house chores, and the only thing that matters is spending time with the loves of your life.
What advice would you give to a busy mom who is trying to find her “bliss”, based on your own experiences?
Something will always interrupt your schedule, the house will always be a mess, and there will always be a never-ending to-do list that’s waiting to be ticked off. But don’t miss out on finding beauty in the chaos. When you’re conscious about finding “bliss” in everything, you’ll realize that there is always always something to be thankful for.
When you spend time with your family, be all there. Never feel bad about a few missed deadlines, or saying NO to what looks like an awesome job opportunity, if the trade-off is having more time for your children and your family. Family is always first.
Above all, bank in on love. Be it your business, or your career, or your family life—just, love what you do and the results will be beyond you can ever imagine.
Connect with Rhiza
Facebook Fan Page: http://www.facebook.com/SweetDreamsDessertBuffets